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Digital Seminar

Healing from the Trauma of Infidelity: Help Clients Rebuild Trust and Find Forgiveness After an Affair

Marilyn Verbiscer, MS, LMFT
5 Hours 48 Minutes
Dec 07, 2017
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  • ​Help your clients recover from an affair whether they are healing with their partner or alone
  • Infidelity affects approximately 50% of committed relationships...and you need to be prepared to work with these clients
  • Innovative in-session strategies and take home assignments for couples
  • Be more confident treating high conflict couples

Are you uncomfortable working with couples whose lives have been shattered by infidelity?

I’m sure you are because they ARE some of the most difficult and intimidating clients to work with as they bring so much trauma and conflict to the therapy room. But it doesn't have to be this way for you…

This workshop will help you expand your therapeutic tool box with practical and clinically relevant in-session interventions to more effectively work with couples or an individual after an affair. You will also be provided with proven, unique, creative and fun homework assignments for your clients who are healing from the trauma of infidelity.

You will leave this workshop with more confidence and a solid treatment plan for helping your clients recover from an affair whether they are healing with their partner or alone.


- PESI Australia, in collaboration with PESI in the USA, offers quality online continuing professional development events from the leaders in the field at a standard recognized by professional associations including psychology, social work, occupational therapy, alcohol and drug professionals, counselling and psychotherapy. On completion of the training, a Professional Development Certificate is issued after the individual has answered and submitted a quiz and course evaluation. This online program is worth 5.75 hours CPD for points calculation by your association.



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Marilyn Steinberg, MS, LMFT, has dedicated her career to working with couples and families She has successfully worked with a variety of individual, couple and family issues such as infidelity, ineffective communication, conflict management issues, incest, depression, anxiety, post-traumatic stress disorder, family of origin issues, rape, attention deficit disorders, family conflict, eating disorders, conduct disorders, grief, hoarding and other issues.

She received her Bachelor of Arts degree in Psychology and Master of Science degree in Child Development and Family Studies from Purdue University. Ms. Steinberg is a Clinical Fellow of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT), an AAMFT Approved Supervisor, a Certified Gottman Seven Principles Educator, a member of the Indiana Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (IAMFT) and a past IAMFT Board Member and Region Representative.

Ms. Steinberg has published and presented both nationally and internationally on the topics of sexuality, family therapy, ethics, adolescence, gang behavior and residential care. She practices at Life Strategies as a couple and family therapist, teaches undergraduate and graduate courses, and is an independent supervision consultant.

Speaker Disclosure:

Financial: Marilyn Verbiscer is in private practice. She has an employment relationship with Life Strategies, LLC. She has an employment relationship with Purdue University. Ms. Verbiscer receives a speaking honorarium from PESI, Inc. She has no relevant financial relationships with ineligible organizations.
Non-financial: Marilyn Verbiscer is a Clinical Fellow of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy; and a member of the Indiana Association for Marriage and Family Therapy.


  1. Analyze the 6 difference types of infidelities and how they affect treatment differently.
  2. Determine why and how relationships become vulnerable to infidelity.
  3. Evaluate the trauma of the discovery and its impact on treatment.
  4. Incorporate strategies for helping your clients rebuild trust.
  5. Communicate the importance to couples for creating meaning and understanding of the affair.
  6. Develop your skills to guide your clients through the process of fostering forgiveness.
  7. Explore the different treatment techniques for clients who are left to heal alone.


Types of Infidelity and Their Impact of Treatment

  • Physical Affair
  • Emotional Affair
  • Physical-Emotional Affair
  • Atypical Infidelity, Complex Affairs and
  • Split-Self Infidelity

Gender, Vulnerabilities and Opportunities

  • Genetic Predispositions
  • Warning Signs
  • Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater?
  • Opportunity in the Work Place, with
  • Previous Partners and on the Internet
  • Why and How it Happens

Rebuilding Trust Phase of Infidelity Treatment

  • Trauma of the Revelation
  • Oral History Interview and No Secrets Contract
  • Assessing Trauma and PTSD Symptomology and Teaching Self-Soothing
  • The Hallmarks of Salvageability
  • Trigger Warnings
  • High and Low Cost Trust Building Behaviors

Create Understanding and Meaning Phase of Therapy

  • Why You Strayed…and Why You Stayed
  • The Slippery Slope and Walls v Windows
  • 4 Factors That Set the Context
  • Create the List of Changes
  • The Miracle Question

Fostering Forgiveness Phase of Treatment

  • The Formal Apology Session
  • What Forgiveness Is, What It Isn’t and the Potential Payoffs.
  • The Choice and Repercussions of Not Forgiving
  • Self-Forgiveness, Cheap Forgiveness and Genuine Forgiveness
  • The Mistaken Assumptions and
  • Maladaptive Personal Beliefs about Forgiveness

Recommitment Phase of Healing

  • Building Rituals of Connection
  • Reclaiming Places, People and Events
  • Tarnished By the Affair
  • Celebration to Signify Mutual Recommitment
  • Vision of Marriage
  • Reversing Walls v Windows
  • Building Other Protective Factors

Healing Alone Is Better Than Not At All

  • Individual Change is Relationship Change
  • Even When the Partner Isn’t In Therapy
  • Grieving the Loss When the Partner
  • Divorces or Dies
  • Trusting Again
  • Healthy Social Networks, Support Groups and Seminars/Retreats
  • Begin a New Life

Target Audience

Addiction Counselors Case Managers, Counselors, Marriage & Family Therapists, Nurses, Psychologists, Social Workers, and other Mental Health Professionals.

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