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Digital Seminar

Teaching Men Love: How to Challenge Traditional Masculinity’s Playbook


Faculty:
Terry Real, LICSW
Duration:
1 Hour 51 Minutes
Copyright:
Jan 06, 2021
Product Code:
NOS096147
Media Type:
Digital Seminar
Access:
Never expires.


Description

The ability to feel love is not the same thing as being able to show and sustain it. Many men don’t know how to do things like be vulnerable, articulate emotional needs, or ask for help—all of which run counter to traditional masculinity’s playbook. This recording will focus on how to teach men to handle themselves in more loving ways, even if that sometimes requires a complete deconstruction and reconstruction of what it means to be a man. Learn how to: 

  • Help men disarm an upset partner with humility and generosity instead of a defensive argument 
  • Increase men’s willingness to cherish both themselves and their relationship with their partner 
  • Help men grow more of what they want from their partner through actively appreciating what they’re already getting 
  • Get therapeutic “buy-in” from even difficult men by enlisting their own best self-interest 

CPD


CPD
- PESI Australia, in collaboration with PESI in the USA, offers quality online continuing professional development events from the leaders in the field at a standard recognized by professional associations including psychology, social work, occupational therapy, alcohol and drug professionals, counselling and psychotherapy. On completion of the training, a Professional Development Certificate is issued after the individual has answered and submitted a quiz and course evaluation. This online program is worth 2 hours CPD for points calculation by your association.

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Terry Real, LICSW, is an Internationally Recognized Family Therapist, Speaker and Author. Terry founded the Relational Life Institute (RLI), offering workshops for couples, individuals and parents around the country along with a professional training program for clinicians wanting to learn his RLT (Relational Life Therapy) methodology.

A family therapist and teacher for more than 25 years, Terry is the best-selling author of I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression (Scribner), the straight-talking How Can I Get Through to You? Reconnecting Men and Women (Scribner), and most recently The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Make Love Work (Random House). Terry knows how to lead couples on a step-by-step journey to greater intimacy – and greater personal fulfillment.

A senior faculty member of the Family Institute of Cambridge in Massachusetts and a retired Clinical Fellow of the Meadows Institute in Arizona, Terry has worked with thousands of individuals, couples, and fellow therapists. Through his books, the Institute, and workshops around the country, Terry helps women and men, parents and non-parents to create the connection they desire in their relationships.

Terry’s work, with its rigorous commonsense approach, speaks to both men and women. His ideas on men’s issues and on couple’s therapy have been celebrated in venues from “Good Morning America,” “The Today Show” and “20/20,” to “Oprah” and The New York Times.

A proponent of “full-throttle marriage,” as described in The New Rules of Marriage, Terry has been called “the most innovative voice in thinking about and treating men and their relationships in the world today.”

The New York Times book review described Terry’s work as: “A critical contribution to feminist psychology (that) brings the Men’s movement a significant step forward.” Robert Bly hailed it as “moving onto new ground in both story and song. Exhilarating in its honesty.”

Terry’s Relational Life Institute grew out of his extensive and empathic experience. He teaches people how to make their relationships work by providing products and services designed to teach the principles of Relational Life™, so that everyone can enjoy full respect living and craft a healthy life legacy.​


Speaker Disclosures:
Financial: Terrence Real is the founder of Relational Life Institute. He receives royalties as a published author. Terry Real receives a speaking honorarium, recording, and book royalties from Psychotherapy Networker and PESI, Inc. He has no relevant financial relationships with ineligible organizations.
Non-financial: Terrence Real has no relevant non-financial disclosures.


Objectives

  1. Evaluate how to treat men disarm an upset partner with humility and generosity instead of defensive argument.
  2. Determine ways in psychotherapy to increase men’s willingness to cherish both themselves and their relationship with their partner to improve well-being.
  3. Demonstrate how to help men grow more of what they want from their partner through actively appreciating what they’re already getting in the context of treatment.
  4. Apply 3 strategies for how to get therapeutic “buy in” from even difficult men by enlisting their own best self-interest.

Outline

  • Help men disarm an upset partner with humility and generosity instead of defensive argument 
    • The Art of Relational Ju-Jitsu 
    • Becoming a “generous gentleman 
  • Increase men’s willingness to cherish both themselves and their relationship with their partner 
    • Developing a cherishing relationship to oneself 
    • How to “do love” 
  • Help men grow more of what they want from their partner through actively appreciating what they’re already getting 
    • Shifting from complaint to request 
    • Positive feedback as relational strategy  
    • Thinking like a team 
  • Get therapeutic “buy in” from even difficult men by enlisting their own best self-interest 
    • The wisdom of a systemic perspective 
    • Forming an alliance with the “functional adult” part of the man 

Target Audience

  • Counselors
  • Social Workers
  • Psychologists
  • Psychotherapists
  • Therapists
  • Marriage & Family Therapists
  • Addiction Counselors
  • Case Managers
  • Physicians
  • Nurses
  • Other Mental Health Professionals

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