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Parenting through IFS: From Tears to Transformation

Frank Anderson, MD
2 Hours
Mar 20, 2021
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For all its joys, parenting is often a roller coaster of challenges. Even when parents are at the top of their game, the most routine curveballs—quarrelling siblings, a child’s public meltdown, or a phone call from a teacher—can trigger unresolved shame, guilt, or anger. But the Internal Family Systems (IFS) approach can help parents more fully understand and heal the wounds their children will inevitably evoke in them, allowing them to better set healthy limits, while also creating a more nurturing family environment. You’ll discover how to help parents: 

  • Talk to children about difficult subjects by using “part of me language,” which cultivates honesty, clarity, and calm 
  • Explore their own reactive moments with compassion and respond to triggers with more empathy, using dialogues with inner parts 
  • Co-parent in a way that’s supportive, collaborative, and leads to a fuller expression of mature selfhood 
  • Recover from the inevitable moments when they “lose it” and take the necessary steps to repair with fuller awareness 

This product is not endorsed by, sponsored by, or affiliated with the IFS Institute and does not qualify for IFS Institute credits or certification. 


- PESI Australia, in collaboration with PESI in the USA, offers quality online continuing professional development events from the leaders in the field at a standard recognized by professional associations including psychology, social work, occupational therapy, alcohol and drug professionals, counselling and psychotherapy. On completion of the training, a Professional Development Certificate is issued after the individual has answered and submitted a quiz and course evaluation. This online program is worth 2 hours CPD for points calculation by your association.



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Frank Anderson, MD, completed his residency and was a clinical instructor in psychiatry at Harvard Medical School. He is both a psychiatrist and psychotherapist. He specializes in the treatment of trauma and dissociation and is passionate about teaching brain-based psychotherapy and integrating current neuroscience knowledge with the IFS model of therapy.

Dr. Anderson is a lead trainer at the IFS Institute with Richard Schwartz and maintains a long affiliation with, and trains for, Bessel van der Kolk’s Trauma Center. He serves as an advisor to the International Association of Trauma Professionals (IATP) and was the former chair and director of the Foundation for Self-Leadership.

Dr. Anderson has lectured extensively on the Neurobiology of PTSD and Dissociation and wrote the chapter “Who’s Taking What” Connecting Neuroscience, Psychopharmacology and Internal Family Systems for Trauma in Internal Family Systems Therapy – New Dimensions. He co-authored a chapter on What IFS Brings to Trauma Treatment in Innovations and Elaborations in Internal Family Systems Therapy, and recently co-authored Internal Family Systems Skills Training Manual.

His most recent book, entitled Transcending Trauma: Healing Complex PTSD with Internal Family Systems was released on May 19, 2021.

His memoir, To Be Loved, is set to be released on May 7, 2024.

Speaker Disclosures:
Financial: Dr. Frank Anderson maintains a private practice. He is the Executive Director of the Foundation for Self Leadership and has employment relationships with The Trauma Center and The Center for Self Leadership. Dr. Anderson receives royalties as a published author. He receives a speaking honorarium, recording, and book royalties from PESI, Inc. He has no relevant financial relationships with ineligible organizations.
Non-financial: Dr. Frank Anderson is a member of the New England Society Studying Trauma and Dissociation and the International Society for the Study of Trauma and Dissociation.


  1. Integrate “a part of me language” in family conversation to allow for safe ways to have difficult discussions with children. 
  2. Create ways to engage parents in an exploration of their reactive moments with compassion and empathy instead of guilt and shame. 
  3. Plan an agreement with parents that allows for healthy co-parenting and minimizes the negative impact they can have on their kids when they’re not at their best 
  4. Demonstrate how to help parents lead from a place of power and set limits for their children while still expressing love and support. 


  • Parent Coaching vs Parent Healing 
    • Parent Coaching 
    • Parenting  
  • Starting the Parenting Journey 
    • Expectations Exercise 
    • Video (I was the perfect mom…) 
  • The Spiritual Dimension 
  • Family History: Legacy Gifts & Burdens 
    • Gifts and Burdens Exercise 
  • Parenting Styles & Attachment Styles  
    • IFS & Parenting  
    • Parenting Styles  
    • What IFS Brings to Parenting  
    • Video (Do you suffer from Par-ent-ing? 
  • Our Reactive Moments 
    • What causes you to lose it (exercise) 
    • List the reasons you can get activated. 
  • When Your Kids Become Your Perpetrator 
    • Video (Mom losing it) 
    • Examples  
      • World series 
      • Sleepover & football game 
      • Trick-or-treating & dinner 
  • Responsibility & Repair  
    • Owning our Parts  
    • Apologizing  
    • Connecting  
  • Triggering Exercise 
    • Overidentifying with their parts 
    • Co-Parenting  
    • Video (people with no kids) 
  • The Triggering Agreement  
    • Personal example 
    • Triggering Agreement Exercise 
  • Direct Access Parenting  
    • Parenting Books 
    • Parenting and Society/Culture 
  • Parenting and Attachment  
  • Parenting and the Brain  
    • Video (I’m not your friend, kid!) 
  • From Reactive to Responsive  
  • The Parent Self  
  • Parenting from Self  
  • Unique Circumstances 
  • Summary & Ending Exercise 

Target Audience

  • Counselors
  • Social Workers
  • Psychologists
  • Psychotherapists
  • Therapists
  • Marriage & Family Therapists
  • Addiction Counselors
  • Case Managers
  • Physicians
  • Nurses
  • Other Mental Health Professionals

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