Couples often lose the skills they learn in therapy during times of stress, retreating to entrenched habits of emotion regulation and interaction based on childhood coping mechanisms of blame, denial, and avoidance. Our task is to help them develop stress-proof habits that engage prefrontal cortex abilities to improve, appreciate, connect, and protect. This recording will illuminate the brain science that helps us create new positive emotional habits.
Steven Stosny, Ph.D. is the director of Compassion Power and author of You Don't Have to Take It Anymore: How to Turn a Resentful, Angry or Emotionally Abusive Relationship into a Compassionate, Loving One and Love Without Hurt.
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- Explore how to switch from “toddler brain” to “adult brain” coping mechanisms by focusing on improving, appreciating, connecting, or protecting.
- Explore how to act on their deeper values rather than temporary feelings by discovering what’s most important to them and which behaviour choices make them truly like themselves.
- Explore how to turn guilt and shame into love motivators that help them show compassion and kindness.
- Explore how to use the power of habituation to help them reinforce love and affection into their daily routine.
- Couples often fail to maintain the skills they learn in therapy.
- Under stress, they retreat to entrenched habits of emotion regulation.
- Under stress they invoke childhood coping mechanisms of blame, denial, and avoidance.
- Teach clients to switch from “toddler brain” to “adult brain” coping mechanisms.
- Convert blame, denial, avoidance into improve, appreciate, connect, protect.
- Show clients how to act on their deeper values rather than temporary feelings
- Show clients how to use guilt and shame as motivations to stay true to deeper values, i.e., showing compassion and kindness to loved ones.
- Create positive emotional habits to replace dysfunctional ones.
- Help clients build routine micro-moments of connection, e.g., eye contact, brief touch, smiles.
- Help clients use cognitive dissonance to improve their connection.
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