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Digital Seminar

Healing from Affairs: Moving Past the Trauma of Betrayal and Infidelity


Faculty:
Tammy Nelson, PhD
Duration:
6 Hours 17 Minutes
Format:
Audio and Video
Copyright:
19 Apr, 2023
Product Code:
NOS059220
Media Type:
Digital Seminar
Access:
Never expires.


Description

In this cutting-edge training, we will discuss the varieties of affairs and the many ways that relationships can heal from the betrayal that affects intimacy. We will review the stages of recovery that lead to long term healing. Issues around trust, forgiveness, new visions of monogamy, sexuality and connection for the future of the couple’s relationship will be addressed. The recording will include videos and case examples to illustrate how breaches of monogamy can affect potential ongoing connection.

We will look at integrity, narcissism, second adolescence, parallel love relationships, online affairs, pornography, sex addiction and emotional infidelity and their effect on sexuality, intimacy and emotional connection and how therapists can help restart communication. We will review three phases of treatment and the steps of the recovery process.

It is crucial to understand the triangulation that can occur when therapists do not explore their own bias and countertransference and we will look at how to avoid unintentional shaming and client retaliation. We will look at the power of the third in the relationship, including the therapeutic as well as the romantic. This recording will delve into the meaning of each type of affair and participants will learn interventions to help repair, restructure and redefine the future and help clients create a new monogamy for a stronger more insightful and connected partnership.

This recording will move beyond a victim, perpetrator and rescuer model of therapy and will create sustainable monogamy agreements where transparency and authenticity promote resiliency.

CPD


CPD

PESI Australia, in collaboration with PESI in the USA, offers quality online continuing professional development events from the leaders in the field at a standard recognized by professional associations including psychology, social work, occupational therapy, alcohol and drug professionals, counselling and psychotherapy. On completion of the training, a Professional Development Certificate is issued after the individual has answered and submitted a quiz and course evaluation. This program is worth 6.5 hours CPD for points calculation by your association.



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Faculty

Tammy Nelson, PhD's Profile

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Tammy Nelson, PhD, is an internationally acclaimed psychotherapist, Board Certified Sexologist, Certified Sex Therapist and Certified Imago Relationship Therapist. She has been a therapist for 35 years and is the executive director of the Integrative Sex Therapy Institute. On her podcast The Trouble with Sex, she talks with experts about hot topics and answers her listeners’ most forbidden questions about relationships. Dr. Tammy is a TEDx speaker, Psychotherapy Networker Symposium speaker and the author of several bestselling books, including Open Monogamy, Getting the Sex You Want, The New Monogamy, When You’re the One Who Cheats, and Integrative Sex and Couples Therapy.

 

Speaker Disclosures:
Financial: Dr. Tammy Nelson maintains a private practice and is executive director and primary faculty at Integrated Sex Therapy Training Institute (ISTI) and has employment relationships with Daybreak University and the California Institute of Integral Studies. She receives a speaking honorarium and recording, and book royalties from PESI, Inc., and she additionally receives royalties from New Harbinger and Sounds True. She is a paid consultant for Evergreen Certifications. Dr. Nelson has no relevant financial relationships with ineligible organizations.
Non-financial: Dr. Tammy Nelson serves on the board of advisors for the World Association of Sex Coaches. She is a member of the American Art Therapy Association, American Association of Sex Educators, Sex Counselors, and Sex Therapists (AASECT), American Comprehensive Energy Psychology Association (ACEP), American Counseling Association, American Family Therapy Academy, American Family Therapy Association (AFTA), American Psychological Association (APA), Connecticut Counselors, Imago Relationships International Association of Professional and Certified Therapists, International Board of Sexologists, International Institute for Sexuality and Human Development, Nonfiction Authors Association, Society Scientific Study Sexuality (SSSS), and the Society for Sex Therapy and Research (SSTAR).

 


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Objectives

  1. Catalogue infidelity using the three-part definition and how partners are affected in a marriage or committed partnership.
  2. Determine the betrayal trauma effects on relationships and how collusion and bias play a part in the secondary gain of the role of the third in infidelity.
  3. Analyse why the current therapy isn’t working and why some systems of recovery from affairs can retraumatise clients.
  4. Distinguish the three phases of treatment after an affair and determine how they can improve treatment outcomes.
  5. Distinguish the difference between implicit and explicit monogamy and create new monogamy agreements.
  6. Construct a revised formula for treatment plans after infidelity breaches, to include long term sustainable monogamy.

Outline

Affair recovery in Integrative Relationship Therapy
  • Why do people cheat?
  • The types of Affairs that present in treatment
  • What is Infidelity?
  • Three Parts of an affair
  • Countertransference
  • Role of the third in treatment
  • Avoiding re-traumatisation in therapy
  • What is betrayal trauma
  • What is collusion and bias and secondary gain
  • Individual integrative therapy
Three stages of Affair recovery treatment
  • Crisis/realisation
  • Insight/reevaluate
  • Vision/renegotiate
  • What is erotic recovery
  • Pleasure heals trauma
  • Treating the cheating partner
  • Video: case
  • Erotic shutdown
  • What is second adolescence?
  • Coping with reactivity
  • Lean in lean out – the dilemma of ending an affair
Creating long term sustainable relationship agreements
  • Trust, safety and the trap of forgiveness
  • Implicit vs explicit monogamy
  • Decrease rumination/blame/projection
  • Micro and Macro behaviours in treatment
  • Video: case
Handing Dishonesty

Vulnerable Cycle

Long Term Monogamy Plan

Future Treatment Recommendations
 

Target Audience

  • Addiction Counsellors
  • Counsellors
  • Marriage and Family Therapists
  • Nurses
  • Physicians
  • Psychologists
  • Social Workers

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