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Digital Seminar

Beyond “Poor Baby!” and “What a Jerk!” Therapy: Balancing Support and Accountability for Clients with Relationship Complaints


Faculty:
William Doherty, PhD
Duration:
1 Hour 56 Minutes
Copyright:
Mar 18, 2023
Product Code:
NOS096296
Access:
Never expires.


Description

When clients tell us stories about people who cause them pain it can be easy to take their side and see things their way. If we aren’t careful, we end up treating our client as a “poor baby!” who has to deal with difficult people, and a “what a jerk!” attitude toward family members and relationship partners whose behavior we hear about in every session. The result is a client who feels supported but doesn’t see their role in chronic relationship problems. In this session, you’ll discover:

  • How to identify the traps we fall into as we listen to our client’s complaints about how others are treating them
  • Develop a systemic mindset for understanding how our clients become part of painful relationship patterns that they have some responsibility for maintaining
  • Practice skills for blending empathy and perspective that help clients expand their self-knowledge and ability to manage relationships well

CPD

Planning Committee Disclosure - No relevant relationships

All members of the PESI, Inc. planning committee have provided disclosures of financial relationships with ineligible organizations and any relevant non-financial relationships prior to planning content for this activity. None of the committee members had relevant financial relationships with ineligible companies or other potentially biasing relationships to disclose to learners.  For speaker disclosures, please see the faculty biography.



CPD

PESI Australia, in collaboration with PESI in the USA, offers quality online continuing professional development events from the leaders in the field at a standard recognized by professional associations including psychology, social work, occupational therapy, alcohol and drug professionals, counselling and psychotherapy. On completion of the training, a Professional Development Certificate is issued after the individual has answered and submitted a quiz and course evaluation. This program is worth 2.0 hours CPD for points calculation by your association.



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Faculty

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William Doherty, PhD, is a professor and director of the Minnesota Couples on the Brink Project at the University of Minnesota. He is co-author of the book Helping Couples on the Brink of Divorce: Discernment Counseling for Troubled Relationships, with Steven Harris. He is cofounder of Better Angels, an initiative to depolarize America.


Speaker Disclosures:
Financial: Dr. William Doherty receives a speaking honorarium and recording royalties from Psychotherapy Networker and PESI, Inc. He has no relevant financial relationships with ineligible organizations.
Non-financial: Dr. William Doherty is a member of the National Council on Family Relations, the International Council of the Institute on the Holocaust and Genocide in Jerusalem, and the American Psychological Association. He serves on several editorial boards, for a complete list contact PESI, Inc.


Objectives

  1. Differentiate the common reasons for therapists inappropriately siding with clients who talk about their relationship problems.
  2. Argue the findings of recent research on how often therapists disparage clients’ relationship partners.
  3. Integrate the main elements of a systemic mindset that can help avoid being pulled into clients’ perspectives on others with whom they are in conflict.
  4. Practice a way to show empathy with a client’s distress but without embracing their perspective on the relationship partners.
  5. Employ a way to challenge a client about their participation in relationship problems in a way that clients appreciate rather than feeling judged by.

Outline

  • Exposing the natural pull towards siding with the client against others in their lives
  • What the research shows on how widespread this issue is in therapy
  • Exploring a systemic mindset and model that expands the therapist’s perspective
  • Practical Strategies for helping clients see their role in chronic relationship dynamics
  • Challenges and limitations of the approach taken in this workshop

Target Audience

  • Counselors
  • Social Workers
  • Psychologists
  • Marriage & Family Therapists
  • Addiction Counselors
  • Physicians
  • Physician Assistants
  • Nurses
  • Nurse Practitioners 
  • Other Mental Health Professionals

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