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Digital Seminar

The Misattuned Family: Techniques for Reparative Work in Family Trauma

Dafna Lender, LCSW
1 Hour 35 Minutes
Aug 04, 2021
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Too many children feel hurt, angry, and disconnected from their parents; and too many parents feel discouraged that their child-rearing approaches aren’t working.  

Many parent-child therapies focus on improving behaviours without looking at the core issues underneath—attachment and trauma.  

This recording offers an approach that focuses on the physiologic, nonverbal connection between parent and child to improve the relationship. Using two attachment-based modalities—Dyadic Developmental Psychotherapy and Theraplay—learn how to enhance regulation, connection, and joy between parents and children as well as guide parents to do reparative work around family trauma. Discover how to: 

  • Get to the heart of a child’s deeper thoughts, feelings, wishes, and beliefs without relying on the child’s ability to verbalize feelings 
  • Facilitate active dialogue between parents and children that’s both safe and gets to their core issues 
  • Practice scenarios for optimal arousal, affect regulation, and de-escalating child-parent dysregulation 
  • Learn gentle ways to intervene and redirect a misattuned or critical parent 

Dafna Lender, LCSW, a certified trainer and consultant in both Theraplay® and Dyadic Developmental Psychotherapy.   



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Dafna Lender, LCSW, is an international trainer and supervisor for practitioners who work with children and families. She is a certified trainer and supervisor/consultant in both Theraplay and Dyadic Developmental Psychotherapy (DDP). Dafna's expertise is drawn from 25 years of working with families with attachment in many settings: at-risk after school programs, therapeutic foster care, in-home crisis stabilization, residential care and private practice. Dafna's style, whether as a therapist or teacher, is combining the light-hearted with the profound by bringing a playful, intense and passionate presence to every encounter. Dafna is the co-author of Theraplay: The Practitioner's Guide (2020). She teaches and supervises clinicians in 15 countries in 3 languages: English, Hebrew and French.


Speaker Disclosures:
Financial: Dafna Lender is the founder of Dafna Lender Psychotherapy Training and Consulting. She receives royalties as a published author. Dafna Lender receives a speaking honorarium and recording royalties from Psychotherapy Networker and PESI, Inc. She has no relevant financial relationships with ineligible organizations.

Non-financial: Dafna Lender has no relevant non-financial relationships with ineligible organizations.

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  1. Implement face-to-face dialogue between parent and child to create a sense of well-being, connection and joy.
  2. Facilitate active dialogue between parent and child that is both safe and gets at the dyad’s core issues.
  3. Practice scenarios for de-escalating child and parent dysregulation optimal arousal and affect regulation.
  4. Apply interventions to increase healthy attachment and connection with parents.


Activities, Practices and Techniques: 
  • Face-to-face Dialogue Between Parent/Child to Create Well-being, Connection and Joy 
  • Active Dialogue Between Parent/Child that’s Both Safe and Gets at the Dyad’s Core Issues 
  • Practice Scenarios for De-escalating Child/Parent Dysregulation Optimal /arousal and Affect Regulation 
  • Gentle Ways to Intervene and Redirect a Misattuned or Critical Parent  

Target Audience

  • Psychologists
  • Social Workers
  • Counselors
  • Marriage & Family Therapists
  • Speech-Language Pathologists
  • Occupational Therapists
  • Occupational Therapy Assistants
  • School Administrators
  • Teachers/School-Based Personnel

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