Low-Sex and Sexless Couples: The Rediscovery of Pleasure

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Tammy Nelson, PhD, is a licensed psychotherapist in private practice, a relationship and international speaker, an author, a faculty member and teacher with a Doctorate in Philosophy in Clinical Sexology. She is a board-certified sexologist, a diplomate of the American Board of Sexologists, a licensed professional counselor, an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, a registered art therapist, a licensed alcohol and drug counselor, a Certified Imago Relationship Therapist and an Advanced Imago Clinician as well as an ISTI Certified Sex and Couples Therapist.

Dr. Tammy is the author of six books, including Open Monogamy: A Guide to Co-Creating Your Ideal Relationship Agreement (2021), Integrative Sex & Couples Therapy: A Therapist’s Guide to New and Innovative Approaches (2020), When You’re the One Who Cheats: Ten Things You Need to Know (2019), The New Monogamy: Redefining Your Relationship After Infidelity (2013), Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together (2008), and What’s Eating You? A Workbook for Anorexia and Bulimia (2004). She is also the creator of Date Night Card Deck (2023), a TEDx speaker, host of the podcast The Trouble with Sex, and founder and executive director of the Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.

 

Speaker Disclosures:
Financial: Dr. Tammy Nelson maintains a private practice and is executive director and primary faculty at Integrated Sex Therapy Training Institute (ISTI) and has employment relationships with Daybreak University and the California Institute of Integral Studies. She receives a speaking honorarium and recording, and book royalties from PESI, Inc., and she additionally receives royalties from New Harbinger and Sounds True. She is a paid consultant for Evergreen Certifications. Dr. Nelson has no relevant financial relationships with ineligible organizations.
Non-financial: Dr. Tammy Nelson serves on the board of advisors for the World Association of Sex Coaches. She is a member of the American Art Therapy Association, American Association of Sex Educators, Sex Counselors, and Sex Therapists (AASECT), American Comprehensive Energy Psychology Association (ACEP), American Counseling Association, American Family Therapy Academy, American Family Therapy Association (AFTA), American Psychological Association (APA), Connecticut Counselors, Imago Relationships International Association of Professional and Certified Therapists, International Board of Sexologists, International Institute for Sexuality and Human Development, Nonfiction Authors Association, Society Scientific Study Sexuality (SSSS), and the Society for Sex Therapy and Research (SSTAR).

Objectives

1. Apply techniques to work with couples around desire vs. arousal and performance vs. pleasure. 
2. Assess the ins and outs of helping couples create monogamy agreements and other interventions for renewing low- and no-desire relationships. 
3. Distinguish how attachment-based vs. individuation-based approaches compare when treating sexual dysfunction in couples. 
4. Use clinical strategies for healing arousal dysfunction, renewing and rekindling desire, and integrating a trauma model into your work. 
5. Determine how to address the three areas of pleasure disorder, and why they often involve issues around betrayal, trust, identity, and self-esteem. 

Outline

• Intro 
• Lack of desire in sexless and low-sex couples  
• How to treat desire discrepancy  
• Desire v arousal 
• Performance v pleasure 
• Monogamy vs agreement 
• Dyads  
• Sexual empathy – case study 
• Erotic recovery 
• Interventions for low and no desire relationships 
• Attachment vs individuation - case study 
• Clinical strategy for arousal dysfunction, renew and rekindle desire 
• Healing trauma and betrayal, trust, identity, self esteem 
• Q&A 

Target Audience

• Counselors
• Social Workers
• Psychologists
• Psychotherapists
• Therapists
• Marriage & Family Therapists
• Addiction Counselors
• Case Managers
• Physicians
• Nurses
• Other Mental Health Professionals