At last, science has cracked the code of love. And Emotionally Focused Therapy uses the science of adult love and bonding to provide therapists with a clear map to help the couples in their care develop more secure and lasting bonds.

But helping distressed couples shape new interactions is one of the biggest challenges therapists face. And if you're going to set up new conversations, conversations that can gradually redefine a distressed relationship, you have to know what to do when these conversations start to go wrong.

Here are two simple techniques you can use to ensure you're shaping conversations that build a more secure bond. The kind of bond we are all longing for. The kind of bond we all need.

Best,
Dr Sue Johnson, leading developer of EFT