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Digital Seminar

The Neurobiology of Healing Relationships: Trauma Work Meets Couples Therapy

Terry Real, LICSW |  Juliane Taylor Shore, LMFT, LPC
1 Hour 58 Minutes
Audio and Video
Mar 21, 2021
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Our ability to navigate hard conversations and find the courage to risk deep intimacy depends on our ability to access the brain states that foster an emotional connection. But when a brain has experienced serious trauma, it can easily be triggered into dysregulation, limiting our capacity for intimate relationships. This recording will explore the neurobiology of how trauma can affect intimacy and review evidence-based approaches to assist with a couple’s emotional re-connection. You’ll discover how to: 

  • Identify which brain states will impede your clients from engaging in relational health and using the tools you are trying to give them  
  • Create a working relationship with your client’s brain to promote trauma recovery and healthy relationships simultaneously 
  • See how applying memory reconsolidation in couples therapy can undo emotional schemas that make relationships feel scary and painful 



Terry Real, LICSW's Profile

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Terry Real, LICSW, is an Internationally Recognized Family Therapist, Speaker and Author. Terry founded the Relational Life Institute (RLI), offering workshops for couples, individuals and parents around the country along with a professional training program for clinicians wanting to learn his RLT (Relational Life Therapy) methodology.

A family therapist and teacher for more than 25 years, Terry is the best-selling author of I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression (Scribner), the straight-talking How Can I Get Through to You? Reconnecting Men and Women (Scribner), and most recently The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Make Love Work (Random House). Terry knows how to lead couples on a step-by-step journey to greater intimacy – and greater personal fulfillment.

A senior faculty member of the Family Institute of Cambridge in Massachusetts and a retired Clinical Fellow of the Meadows Institute in Arizona, Terry has worked with thousands of individuals, couples, and fellow therapists. Through his books, the Institute, and workshops around the country, Terry helps women and men, parents and non-parents to create the connection they desire in their relationships.

Terry’s work, with its rigorous commonsense approach, speaks to both men and women. His ideas on men’s issues and on couple’s therapy have been celebrated in venues from “Good Morning America,” “The Today Show” and “20/20,” to “Oprah” and The New York Times.

A proponent of “full-throttle marriage,” as described in The New Rules of Marriage, Terry has been called “the most innovative voice in thinking about and treating men and their relationships in the world today.”

The New York Times book review described Terry’s work as: “A critical contribution to feminist psychology (that) brings the Men’s movement a significant step forward.” Robert Bly hailed it as “moving onto new ground in both story and song. Exhilarating in its honesty.”

Terry’s Relational Life Institute grew out of his extensive and empathic experience. He teaches people how to make their relationships work by providing products and services designed to teach the principles of Relational Life™, so that everyone can enjoy full respect living and craft a healthy life legacy.​

Speaker Disclosures:
Financial: Founder: Terrence Real is the founder of Relational Life Institute. He receives royalties as a published author. Terrence Real receives a speaking honorarium, recording, and book royalties from Psychotherapy Networker and PESI, Inc. He has no relevant financial relationships with ineligible organizations.
Non-financial: Terrence Real has no relevant non-financial disclosures.

Juliane Taylor Shore, LMFT, LPC's Profile

Juliane Taylor Shore, LMFT, LPC Related seminars and products

Juliane Taylor Shore, LMFT, LPC, is a teacher of interpersonal neurobiology.

Speaker Disclosures:
Financial: Juliane Taylor Shore is the founder and clinical director of IPNB Psychotherapy. She maintains a private practice. She receives a speaking honorarium from Psychotherapy Networker and PESI, Inc. She has no relevant financial relationships with ineligible organizations.
Non-financial: Juliane Taylor Shore is a member of the Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing International Association, the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy, and the Somatic Experiencing Trauma Institute.

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  1. Assess the states of your client's brain that impede emotional connections.
  2. Create a working relationship with your client’s brain on multiple levels to promote trauma recovery and healthy relationships simultaneously.
  3. Apply memory reconsolidation principles to couples therapy.


  • Identify the states of your client's brain 
    • Define the locations and functions of the subcortical and cortical systems
    • Identify integrated and disintegrated states in the brain
    • Define the relationships between these systems and why working with a subcortically lead brain state (disintegrated) is so difficult
    • Assess disintegration vs integration.
    • Use tools that work with the brain to end this state and come back to regulation and connection
      • 2nd consciousness 
      • Time outs 
      • Relational jujitsu 
  • Create a working relationship with your client’s brain on multiple levels to promote trauma recovery and healthy relationships simultaneously 
    • Your client’s ability to choose an integrated brain state is essential to them utilizing skills that will help them to heal.
      • Using inner child work in couples’ sessions 
      • Use the witnessing of personal work to shift relational dynamics 
  • Apply memory reconsolidation principles to couples therapy 
    • Define and explain memory reconsolidation 
    • Identify emotional schemas that are problematic 
    • Learn couples interventions that bring the ability to rewire these emotional schemas home with your couples. 
      • Core negative image 
      • Dead stop contracts 

Target Audience

  • Counselors
  • Social Workers
  • Psychologists
  • Psychotherapists
  • Therapists
  • Marriage & Family Therapists
  • Addiction Counselors
  • Case Managers
  • Physicians
  • Nurses
  • Other Mental Health Professionals

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